SPLITTING: Protecting Yourself While Divorcing a Borderline or a Narcissist <<< Click on the link to purchase! It comes with our highest recommendation! by author: William A. Eddy, foreward by Mike Roe Our Book Review:
If engaged in a high-conflict divorce and/or custody situation with an ex-partner who suffers from (or is suspected of suffering from) a personality disorder – this book comes with our highest recommendation. Even if they are simply a high-conflict personality and are preparing to embark upon a very contentious divorce and custody proceeding, spend the money to read and understand what Bill Eddy has to offer with this book.
It matters not if you’re already somewhere “down the path” with your high-conflict ex, you will find that Splitting: Protecting Yourself While Divorcing a Borderline or a Narcissist will be a tremendous help in understanding with whom you’re dealing. It will prepare you to better handle what is to come both personally and legally. It will be instrumental in helping you to understand the motivations of your ex-partner and the expectations of what will surely continue to take place both inside and outside of the court room.
If your attorney doesn’t have experience and isn’t very familiar dealing with an adversary who has a personality disorder, share yours with your attorney or consider spending the money to buy counsel a copy for review. I suggest this because many will discover parallels in the examples cited in the book are eerily similar to their own experiences. Even today, many attorneys are not familiar with how personality disorders affect litigation in family court. The earlier on you are in your litigation process, the better this book will be as a guide to prepare for what is sure to come. Examples of the aftermath of handling situations the correct way and the incorrect way are astonishing.
Splitting provides a unparalleled look into what to expect during such highly contentious legal battles. It will give you tools to prepare. It will give you ideas to counteract their attacks. It encourages you to stand your ground. It prepares you to be assertive, even aggressive, without harming your case. Don’t be surprised if you suddenly develop an uncanny ability to actually predict your adversary’s next move. In our opinion, it is that spot-on.
I will also recommend that you repeatedly refer to it throughout your experience. Doing so will help you to refocus under times of great stress to better identify what issues deserve higher levels of attention than others. You must learn to recognize that not every single issue is “the most important one.” It’s very easy to get caught in that trap and be directed away from those that are most important and most relevant to your case.
This book is a must-have, whether you’re just starting down the road to divorce and custody litigation or already involved in it. If your opponent suffers from a personality disorder or is just plain “high-conflict” – it comes with our highest recommendation.
~Michael
